Letting Go

As I embark on a Residency in Motherhood in this time of profound isolation and uncertainty I am confronted with questions.

What can I make using the materials I already have?

How can I participate in a community?

What new ways of interacting can we invent?

How the hell do I collaborate with my defiant 6 year old?!

Collaborative Self Portrait with handmade ink.

Here is how it goes:

If she knows I am intentionally working towards a goal she will work against it.

If I come at this with a plan, I will want to control it.

If I want to control it, my daughter with sabotage it.

If my daughter sabotages it, I will get frustrated.

If I get frustrated, everyone has a bad day.

The point?

I need to let go of control.

Wouldn’t it be nice if it was that easy though? But it is not. I am a controlling person, this is not going to change.

So I need to balance maintaining control in the small moments available to me and letting go of control when I am with my daughter.

Enter my rituals.

Check back in tomorrow to see documentation of some rituals that keep me sane.

Today is the day…

I have known about Lenka Clayton’s Artist Residency in Motherhood since 2015 when my daughter was 2 years old and I had the sudden urge to make art again. I read every book, article or blog post about art and motherhood I could find and somewhere in there was this intriguing idea- to re-frame the space of motherhood and the domestic as an Artist Residency.

In addition to being the mother of a 2 year old I was an in home childcare provider, caring for four other toddlers and financially supporting the entire household. It was stressful, I was not OK. So I created an Artist in Residence at Preschool for myself.

I hung large pieces of white paper on the walls of my home/childcare. Every time I had to take away a toy that was being fought over I traced it on the wall. Every meal the small humans did not finish I blended up into “ink” and screen printed onto the wall. I threw their loads of construction paper artwork into blenders and remade paper. (I did this to all their snotty tissues too!)

That residency saved my sanity.

Fast forward to three weeks before the closures started to go down. I was let go from my job in local food production and had decided to finally try to start a career as an Artist. For three weeks I worked in my home studio for FIVE UNINTERRUPTED HOURS A DAY while my 6 year old was at school. It was blissful.

Then schools closed and my momentum vanished. Then everything closed and the reality of the situation set in.

It is stressful and I am NOT OK. So… I am intentionally re-framing this time at home as an Artist Residency in Motherhood.

Here we go…

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